Postcard to Daddy

Postcard to Daddy

Postcard to Daddy

               Genre: Documentary
               Family relationships, sexual abuse, father-son relationship, biography, Berlinale 2010
  From the outside the family floor seemed to be always quite normal: mother, father and three children. The older brother a little introverted, highly intelligent daughter and the youngest son Michael, a ray of sunshine. But the facade is deceptive, as long as eight years, Michael was sexually abused by his own father. And no one noticed it, not even his mother or his siblings. Since then, much time has passed. Michael Stock has become a filmmaker. But he could not raise this issue for years. After he became ill with AIDS and in 2007 suffered a stroke, he finally made the decision this chapter in his life and his family uncover relentlessly, hoping perhaps to find his peace.

The result of this journey into the dark past is Postcard To Daddy, a documentary who deals honestly but sensitively with the subject. This is not the least stick to display of his psychic wounds. He is concerned with the closing to the peace of mind of himself and his family. Stock has long conversations with his siblings, whose lives have been changed with the truth, too. How to deal with a father who tortured his own brother, to a himself had done but never do evil? Should we confront his own children with such a grandpa? Above all, the mother, who had noticed in all the years nothing, takes stock of his healing process. Both go to Thailand and try and unsparing in long talks to find a degree.

What To Daddy Postcard from similar documentaries is fundamentally different, is his honesty. Where other films cease to tell or reimburse only cryptic report, sees what’s happening stick in the eye and told them. Learning With so much directness of the audience must first deal, because the truth makes uncomfortable. The rolling up of many small details perverse and destructive but has not placed here will be on display at the end. It is not a matter of showing how much one has yet suffered. Rather, it goes out for a way out of victimhood. In their discussions, the family begins to face the past and the question of how they can live with the guilt and shame. But it turns out more than clear how much damage such an abuse of a person. Stock detail analyzes not only his childhood but also his life as an adult, which was dominated in every phase of their abuse experiences.

It is sometimes difficult to tolerate listening to these conversations. Stocks life story and his way of telling them to take the audience so much that it is difficult to endure this film. But just as it must, as is too often looked the other way on this issue. It is amazing how one is apologetic and sympathetic to the perpetrators – not that you could forgive him, but there is an astonishing amount of mental effort against him. The question of how the father thinks about it some twenty years later, tries to stick to answer as well. It is almost unbelievable that he is also able to interview him. So much chutzpah has not been seen in the cinema a long time.

If stock is closer to his peace with this film, one can only guess. But Postcard To Daddy certainly an important document that the not “just talk about it” escapes and sexual abuse as a taboo that shows what he is: the destruction of a people.

(Beatrice Behn)

Title: Postcard to Daddy Country of production: Germany Year of production: 2010 Length: 85 (Min)

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